Did you know that 10% of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage? Even though miscarriages are common, it is still considered to be a taboo subject. For many women, just knowing that they are not alone in dealing with the loss of their unborn baby can be extremely comforting.
The silence surrounding miscarriages and infant loss needs to be broken before we can take the stigmatism surrounding this painful time. Many women admit that they feel as if they lost a part of themselves when they lost their baby. But many women find opening up and sharing their story has helped them find an inner strength they weren’t even aware they had.
Women are learning to break through the decades of silence and stigmatism by sharing how they dealt with the grief and sorrow of an unwanted miscarriage. Maybe it will help you in the healing process?
“I found it hard to hold back my tears and feelings of jealousy every time I’d see a pregnant mommy. I started blocking friends on social media who were expecting a baby or already had a happy family. But after realizing that I was isolating myself, I decided to write about my miscarriage on Facebook and my feelings of sorrow and loss. I was surprised how many friends reached out to me that they had also lost a baby but were too afraid to speak up. Being able to talk about this with others who went through the same thing has helped me feel less alone.”
“I was only 24 when I had a miscarriage, I admit I wasn’t prepared for having a baby and considered it to be a relief in the beginning. But then over time, I began to feel a tremendous loss and felt empty inside. Since I was an artist, I decided to create a flipbook with simple illustrations that captured the sequence of events of my pregnancy and then loss. Having something tangible of this period of my life has helped with sadness.”
“I had a miscarriage when I was six months pregnant. My husband and I were private people and preferred to keep the details out of the public eye. But I felt so lonely, almost as if I was invisible to those around me. I decided I needed an outlet and shared with the world about by son Vermont. So I created an anonymous blog and wrote about our imaginary life of what could have been.”
“Time is the only thing that has helped me cope. Time.”
“My boyfriend dumped me after finding out I was pregnant. So when I lost my baby at 5 months, I literally felt so alone. My mom was camping up at the lake, so I drove sixteen hours to get up there and cried and cried in her arms. Even though she didn’t say a word, it was just comforting knowing that someone cared.”
“Helping others has helped me cope with my pain. Even though they might not have experienced the same as me, it helps me realize that I’m not alone in this world. I find comforting others gives me true comfort.”